A few years back, when a friend of mine had flippantly mentioned that the sole purpose of walking the world for such agonizingly long yrs, is to produce and leave ur heir. I had argued hard against it. However; today, I have been into circumstances that I have started more than believing in his argument. The whole world is crumbling around me.
80% of my B.Tech mates are married now. Some of them have children :O. Done and dusted..A month back we finished our post grad. and about 20% of the nerds took the plunge as soon as the agony of 2 yrs ended. Phoney, Cole, Anush, Daga.. and the list goes on. I came back home and have been resting at home.. but signs from the almighty doesnt blip for a second. For continuously two weeks, all they would flash on TV has been some Celeb Marriage. An Abhishek married an Aishwarya. An Arun Nayar married some Liz Hurley. People say this Liz. and Aish are beautiful women. I smile and shrugg my shoulders.
But, the occult wisdom of the mother earth doesn't stop revealing itself here. As I was back, I visited some of my school friends' families. All they talked about is Marriage-marriage-marriage. Being in the wrong side of 25 is an awesome torture for single males here in India. So, there is this aunt whom, I have been advising on her family matters since I was in class 8th. Her son studied with me for 8 yrs in school. Now, her son is working with an engineering corporation and people r bugging her to get her son married.. All she did was to discuss the marriage proposals with me.. " THis person has got 3 daughters and 3 sons and he owns 6 small diagnostic centres. Do u thnk he would be able to give enough (read dowry)... afterall I need all the expenses covered up...".
Court. copulate and produce.
My mailbox has started receiving excessive spams of viagra and cialis ads. When it rains it really pains :((.
I am trying to shield myself away from all such alliance tendencies but as I try to finish this post real fast... someone has just handed a marriage invitation card to me.
(I wanted to add so many things but, in a cafe, I can't concentrate and the end result is such a poor post... anyways.)
So my (single) aunt told me the following a few years back:
ReplyDeleteWhen she was in her 30s, all her friends were getting married and having children, she felt a bit low.
At her 40s when her friends were going through divorces, she was like an eagle. She had her own life, she could travel when and wherever she wanted with no kids to consider first and everything to look forward to.
I didn't have it in my life plan to get married but then again, life can be a bitch sometimes ;)
You don't have to comply or follow other people’s timetable ... follow your own - it is your life after all.
***notes every bit of advice****
ReplyDeleteMy brother got married recently too, I guess he's around 28 or something but he did it on his own. Now that I'm thinking, it's weird no one had started bugging him.
ReplyDeleteIt's real funny when your older brother gets married and all the aunties in the family are like,,"You're next, now it's your turn" and I'm like ," Fuck I'm just 17." But they never learn, do they?